How to win friends and influence people

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I started to read D’Ale Carnegie book and is full of great advices on people relations handling. Most important is the one about criticism, how this influences in a negative way the relationship with others.

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Techniques in Handling People

  1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
  2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
  3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Six ways to make people like you

  1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
  2. Smile.
  3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
  4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
  5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
  6. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

Win others to your way of thinking

  1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
  2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong.”
  3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
  4. Begin in a friendly way.
  5. Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
  6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
  7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
  8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
  9. Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
  10. Appeal to the nobler motives.

Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

  1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
  2. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
  3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
  4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
  5. Let the other person save face.
  6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”
  7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
  8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
  9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

The summary was taken from this website  but I will come back with my own impressions about it.


  1. illusion20 aprilie 2019

    Waiting for your impressions 🙂

  2. Dana Codori (Anaphielle)20 aprilie 2019

    I’m waiting too for your impressions. There was a picture on Facebook in the last weeks on wich was writing that Dale Carnegie wrote „How to win friends…” and actually he died alone. Strange, isn’t it? Ps: I don’t know if is true. 🙂

    1. oanahrp21 aprilie 2019

      Wow, I did not see it. If true, that’s very sad.

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